Was Woman Wrong To Ask Men to Pay For Implants?


I got a shout out a few days ago from Nicole Ostil, nee Gomes, who responded to a piece I wrote not so long ago in which I criticized the 24-year-old wife and mother for going on the Internet and asking strange men to help her pay for breast implants.

“Thank you for your personal insights,” she wrote, adding, she is “actually quite flattered at all the controversy” stirred up by new media writers like yours truly.

For some reason, Nicole felt it necessary to stress to me that the web site on which she solicited her cosmetic surgery, MyFreeImplants.com, “wasn’t a new site I created.”

In fact, she said, it was her husband who first chanced upon the site. “We thought it was a joke,” she related, “and then decided that I could give it a try.”

Neither Nicole nor her husband see anything wrong with what she’s doing. After all, she said, “I don’t have to porn up.”

The young woman, a graphic designer, an aspiring model, took particular umbrage at the suggestion that her willingness to go to such extreme lengths for bigger breasts suggests a self esteem issue.

“If things are the way that you suggest,” she wrote, then “dying your hair, wearing make up, or getting your nails done means you have a bad self image.”

Finally, she closed, “I have never seen a more judgmental group of people anywhere” like the Christ followers who dared to suggest that what she is doing is unGodly. “I’m sorry,” she said, “that all of you feel the need to impose your own beliefs on others.”

My first reaction to Nicole’s response was joy. Because I believe it to be a tell-tale sign that she has been convicted by the Holy Spirit; that He is trying to save her from the snares of this fallen world, which tempts young women – particularly those blessed with beauty – to trade upon their physical attributes.

The Christians I know do not seek to impose their own beliefs on others, but to stand up for God’s law, which is set forth in His Word. They are not judgmental, condemning sinners to hell. But they speak the truth in love, calling sinners to repentance.

This particular Christian thinks there absolutely nothing wrong with a woman dying her hair, wearing make-up or having her nails manicured.

I don’t even have a problem with women who have breast implants, which I consider a “disputable matter,” in the words of the Apostle Paul, on which faithful Christians can respectfully differ.

My quarrel with Nicole – whose days are spent in college, at work and at the gym, who says that she views breast implants “as another way that I can improve myself” – is the way she has gone about “earning” the money for her surgery.

I maintain that no self-respecting wife and mom would be so desperate for larger breasts that she would ask a man other than her husband to pay for them.

This entry was published on October 30, 2012 at 10:10 AM. It’s filed under Morality, WOMEN and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Follow any comments here with the RSS feed for this post.

9 thoughts on “Was Woman Wrong To Ask Men to Pay For Implants?

  1. no name on said:

    She is a con artist. She does not have either if her kids. She cant hold a job down because her and her hubby have addiction issues. She has horrible self esteem that is why she lets her hubby dictate her worth. She is eaay to quote the bible yet follows NOTHING it says. Other then dont judge me. Its hard not to judge when everything that comes out her mouth is a lie.

  2. pastorjackwilson on said:

    Hi Nicole,
    I see you like to quote Scripture. you should get yourself a King James Version because you can easily run afoul using anything else. Example as to why:
    People who do not study the Bible on a regular basis don’t really understand what they are espousing. As in your response you basically are saying that no one should judge you. Do you think the Scriptures are saying you can never be judged? If you shot somebody would that apply? How about if you robbed a convenience store? Of Course not. The bible says that Christians will judge the world.1Co 6:2 Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters?

    By the way, didn’t you judge me by saying that I was judging you? How about this “Thank you for your uhhh spiritual judgement once again. ” ” Was it sarcasm or did you not judge my ability to impart a word of instruction to you.

    I am not so sure why you have included this verse as it has to do with giving the Gospel to unworth recipients. I hope that wasn’t a self prophecy.

    The judging you are referring to is actually condemnation. I do not condemn you nor do I have the power to do so nor do I think anything you do is condemnable as I am a sinner as you.

    What I did do thou is to impart some obvious Christian judgement. If you (again) were robbing a bank would I not have a responsibility to tell you it was not a good thing or profitable? So what changes my judgement? Because it is your boobs? What if you decided to become a call girl? Could I then say something? Remember, you started this by putting yourself in the public arena.

    Finally, you must also recognize what you did as sin. “Do not judge me because I sin differently than you.” That is your admission. We should look to avoid all sin, all the time, as much as we are able to fight it, we should do so.
    I think the biggest problem is you. “It’s not embarrassing at all.” If you were indeed a Christian or, let’s say one who is sincere, God would have shown you embarrassment.I have done plenty that God has let me see clearly.
    This world is getting worse and worse and we need to get better and better. I would hope you would also.

  3. Go for it.

  4. pastorjackwilson on said:

    We have come a long way baby! Paul said if a women had a question in church she should ask her husband at home. I feel the reason for that is not to embarrass him by going to another man and suggesting he could not answer her questions.
    If a man can not take care of his own home is is worse than an infidel.
    You are right about a grey area but perhaps it is covered under the laws of Leviticus==”cutting” as the cutting is for self aggrandizement and not for a medical need.
    I imagine there are women who truly hate their bodies so much that they feel surgery is the answer. How about a nose job? As a guy, I was never impressed with the size but the beauty that shines through the face of a Godly woman. (that was not referencing the nose) In God’s world we are all beautiful that belong to him.
    If my wife went on line asking another man to pay for our vacation or education or even a medical procedure, I would be really upset. Perhaps we should direct this blog to her husband?

    • I agree Pastor. I think no husband worth his salt would let his wife beseech other men to pay for her cosmetic surgery, or anything else for that matter.

      • Nicole on said:


        Thank you for your uhhh spiritual judgement once again. I ask for my own forgiveness.


        Matthew 7
        New International Version (NIV)
        Judging Others

        7 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

        3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

        6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

        Do not judge me because I sin differently than you.

        It’s not embarrassing at all. It’s not like I’m standing on a street corner with a sign that reads “needs boobs”. I’m not asking any individual, they choose to donate to a anyone of the women on the site.

        It is entertaining and sad how much controversy that has been created by how and what I want to do to my boobs.

        Again thank you for your less than enlightening insight on my life and your sense of morality.

        Nicole 😉

      • pastorjackwilson on said:

        Is this mine or will you take it?

      • All yours, Pastor.

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