I got a shout out a few days ago from Nicole Ostil, nee Gomes, who responded to a piece I wrote not so long ago in which I criticized the 24-year-old wife and mother for going on the Internet and asking strange men to help her pay for breast implants.
“Thank you for your personal insights,” she wrote, adding, she is “actually quite flattered at all the controversy” stirred up by new media writers like yours truly.
For some reason, Nicole felt it necessary to stress to me that the web site on which she solicited her cosmetic surgery, MyFreeImplants.com, “wasn’t a new site I created.”
In fact, she said, it was her husband who first chanced upon the site. “We thought it was a joke,” she related, “and then decided that I could give it a try.”
Neither Nicole nor her husband see anything wrong with what she’s doing. After all, she said, “I don’t have to porn up.”
The young woman, a graphic designer, an aspiring model, took particular umbrage at the suggestion that her willingness to go to such extreme lengths for bigger breasts suggests a self esteem issue.
“If things are the way that you suggest,” she wrote, then “dying your hair, wearing make up, or getting your nails done means you have a bad self image.”
Finally, she closed, “I have never seen a more judgmental group of people anywhere” like the Christ followers who dared to suggest that what she is doing is unGodly. “I’m sorry,” she said, “that all of you feel the need to impose your own beliefs on others.”
My first reaction to Nicole’s response was joy. Because I believe it to be a tell-tale sign that she has been convicted by the Holy Spirit; that He is trying to save her from the snares of this fallen world, which tempts young women – particularly those blessed with beauty – to trade upon their physical attributes.
The Christians I know do not seek to impose their own beliefs on others, but to stand up for God’s law, which is set forth in His Word. They are not judgmental, condemning sinners to hell. But they speak the truth in love, calling sinners to repentance.
This particular Christian thinks there absolutely nothing wrong with a woman dying her hair, wearing make-up or having her nails manicured.
I don’t even have a problem with women who have breast implants, which I consider a “disputable matter,” in the words of the Apostle Paul, on which faithful Christians can respectfully differ.
My quarrel with Nicole – whose days are spent in college, at work and at the gym, who says that she views breast implants “as another way that I can improve myself” – is the way she has gone about “earning” the money for her surgery.
I maintain that no self-respecting wife and mom would be so desperate for larger breasts that she would ask a man other than her husband to pay for them.